Nuancing Everything

Recently I used the term "nuancing" on one of my message boards, and was asked to define this. Here is my reply:

Nuancing is about avoiding new rules, avoiding MUSTS, avoiding about-faces, and embracing "shades of gray" thinking.

An example is that some intuitive eating gurus say you MUST legalize all food first.

Well, okay, that works for some. But maybe you have one food you're really afraid of. Can you nuance this? Can you legalize SOME foods right now, and consciously choose to put off the one that frightens you for now? It's messier.

But one reason we got into this predicament in the first place is messiness-avoidance.

Life is messy, hunger and fullness are messy, feelings are messy, and we sometimes try too hard to get on some kind of "plan" or way of understanding things so as to neaten it all up.

A little of that is okay, but if your eating is dysfunctional, chances are you're trying too hard to keep things simple and neat.

It takes more brain-power to think through things in a granular way, but ALL OF US have that brain power. For one reason or another, somewhere along the way, we got hooked on avoiding using our brains
when it comes to certain areas of our lives.

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