Granular thinking: June 2007 Archives

You're learning normal eating, but you still see-saw between extremes. You don't know which side of the see-saw to land on. Maybe you'll recognize one of these:

1. Sugar is poison vs. sugar is satisfying in small amounts

2. I felt so healthy on the Atkins diet vs. I must get away from all diet thinking

3. I must get away from wanting to lose weight vs. Who am I kidding? Weight loss is still why I'm in this

4. Weighing myself every day is what makes me crazy vs. weighing myself is how to stay accountable

Perhaps you have you own see-saw, one not listed here.

Do you see-saw between two extremes?

Do you feel like a failure learning intuitive eating because you can't make up your mind which side to land on with a thump?

Consider this. We all have struggles. We all have dichotomies. But how important are they to resolve?

Here's a suggestion. Identify your see-saw. Then surrender to the fact that it may never go away. You might learn normal eating, and still struggle with the see-saw. Then demote your see-saw in its importance.

Today when you get caught on your see-saw, laugh at yourself, and then ask and answer "How important is it really for me to resolve this once and for all? Not important enough."

Then decide for the moment where to land. Tomorrow you can decide again. Keep laughing. Seesaws are fun. Don't try and get it right once and for all. It's just not important enough.

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